Mindset is what distinguishes successful people from people who are not happy with their life. Successful people think differently. They rarely find themselves confused or lost in their life for a long time. In fact, anyone can adopt a mindset of a winner by learning to think differently. It is important to have the right kind of thinking because your thinking influences your attitude towards any given situation, and therefore your actions.
Mindset of a Winner/30+ Thoughts that make you feel stronger
- Knowing that only you are responsible for your own happiness
- Knowing that only you are responsible for your own success. People who want things will find a way to achieve them, and people who don’t will find an excuse for their lack of action.
- Know what you want
- Know your worth and don’t settle for less. If successful people do settle for less, it’s temporary and because it leads them to a certain point from which they can transition to the place/position they want to find themselves in
- Have a plan
- Have dreams and know how to translate your dreams into goals and break them down into steps that can be achieved. Every day you do something that contributes to your goals
- Don’t give up
- Try different approaches/people to maximize your chance of success
- Don’t compare yourself to others. You measure your progress by comparing the situation you are in today to the situation you’ve been in the past. You don’t measure your success only in monetary/financial terms – you measure your success in your personal growth.
- Focus on present but always have future in mind and prepare for it
- Know that you deserve success because you work hard for it (but make sure your actions may actually lead to where you want to be (e.g. one cannot achieve success in acting by being a waitress)
- Think positively. Negative thoughts limit opportunities available. However, successful people always know statistics to know the barriers and the amount of effort required to overcome them.
- Focus on your goals and do everything in your power to achieve them
- Know how to deal with uncertainty. Uncertainty doesn’t scare you because you have a plan to deal with it (and therefore you are not anxious about uncertainty).
- You do research and understand what skills/experience you need to have, what people you need to know, etc. and then you actually work on developing the skills/getting the experience you need to have
- You often prioritize relationship management and focus on maintaining positive relationship with as many people as you can
- You take responsibility for your actions (and yours only) and you admit your mistakes
- You know your strengths and weaknesses and work on your weaknesses until they become their strengths
- You set high goals for yourself regardless of what goals people that surround you (e.g. friends, neighbours, co-workers) have. Be a dreamer!
- In any job you do, you always have achievements,you have a vision and you focus on creating a legacy
- Inspired by success of others
- Learn from criticism
- You don’t view failure as a reflection of your ability, it’s simply another lesson you need to learn to move forward and/or sign you need to change your approach
- You celebrate your accomplishments and milestones with yourself – you take the time to recognize every milestone you get to because it is important to you
- You know your weaknesses and know how to work around them – for example, if you know you take more time to get ready, you wake up earlier
- You don’t let other people define your vision of yourself. You don’t care about opinions of other people of you. You may choose to take certain opinions into consideration but you don’t let other people’s opinion influence your opinion of yourself, and for that very reason you don’t constantly seek approval
- You don’t make decisions that are driven by emotions or fears. You take the time to learn to make decisions that are aligned with your values and goals in any situation
- You translate anxiety into positive energy by doing things that will ensure your success. For example, if you are anxious about sleeping in and missing an important event, you will make sure you have several alarms on, go to bed early, make sure they you enough gas in your car, etc. by addressing any possible risks that may take place
- You are your own cheerleader and motivator. You do not need someone to stand behind you and tell you what to do because you have internal motivation and drive.
- You have a self-discipline and you ensure that the things you planned on working today are done before you take a rest
- You don’t go with the flow- you don’t let the life take you whenever because you are not passive about your life. You care about your life and your success and you are the one who makes decisions in your life because you know where you are going and where you need to be.
- You have high emotional intelligence and able to identify what emotions your experience at any moment and how they may influence your decisions. If you feel that you need some kind of positive boost you do take measures to address it
- You recognize the importance of your health and always find ways to improve it (e.g. sleep, exercise, diet, etc.)
- You have a balanced life (family, relationships/friends, career, health, hobbies, personal development, etc.) – and you do something to make sure every aspect of their life is maintained well
- Reading and listening is more important than writing/speaking
- You don’t get stuck in the past. You don’t let past grievances/negative experiences/guilt/blame dictate the way your life is today or how you feel about today is not influenced by your past
- You and your thoughts and actions are future-oriented
- You are passionate about what you do/you have a passion and you do something about it
- You reflect a lot and revisit and refresh your beliefs about how things work based on new experiences
- You know what inspires/motivates you and you surround yourself with it (e.g. a role model, quotes, picture of their goal, TED talks, etc.)
- You imagine yourself succeeding and focus on positive feelings you get/you know how to dream
- You don’t let current troubles/everyday worries/current problems define the way you see their life because your life is so much more than that
- You don’t create limits for yourself
- You let people take accountability for their own success/failures (failure of your kids/parents/friends does not make you a failure)
- You constantly read/listen/educate yourself and improve your skills
- You mentor others and help others grow and succeed
- You feel successful within. It does not depend on external validation (you don’t need other people to tell you that or when you are successful to feel successful, neither you care)