Many people go through change, stressors and challenges every day. Those things change us but not always help us grow. When we also experience growth, we are going through personal transformation.

Below are the signs that what you are going through right now is resulting in personal transformation or growth:

• You are aware of your emotions and can identify them as you experience them (e.g., I feel upset because…)
• You allow yourself to dream outside of the originally planned course of action/current experience (can I succeed in another career, move to another country, do new things?)
• You challenge yourself constantly
• You are more emotionally available to others
• You have a good perspective on what problems actually are
• You can control your time better than before
• You can disregard a lot of things that are happening as noise and rise above and focus on what is really important
• You are in control of how you respond to anything
• You are more open to other people
• You are motivated enough to jump into opportunities and take chances without overthinking or weighing pros and cons
• You are aware how to control your energy and motivation and have a support toolbox (e.g. if I feel overwhelmed, I have a book to read to redirect my thoughts, motivational playlist, I go for a walk, I have a “mental support” drink etc.)
• You are fearless, you do things that several years ago would be scary to do, and several more years you would not even consider doing
• You become more open to new experiences, you are willing to try new things and do things differently
• You are more flexible about things because you keep perspective in mind and not let details contribute to conflicts
• You actively find ways to improve and update every aspect of your life
• You say less about things you do not like or agree with
• You value time more
• You no longer engage in petty conflicts or drama
• You are looking for ways to learn more and do better
• You have a better sense of self
• You do not care what others think of you
• You prefer comfort over looking cool/pretty/powerful
• You are less focused on people and more interested in ideas
• You create your own rules, standards and goals. Your decision making does not depend on social acceptance or getting a blessing from someone other than you